WISHING YOU A THURSDAY KIND OF MOTHER’S DAY

If I were a kid and it was acceptable for me to wear those super cool socks or underwear that have the days of the week on them, I’m pretty sure I’d pick Thursday every time. I’ve always thought of Sunday as my favorite day of the week for all the obvious  reasons– church, family dinner, nap, football, but I’ve really been appreciating Thursdays lately.  It’s funny because there was a time in my life when Thursday was a really fun day for totally different reasons (Thirsty Thursday anyone?) but here in “Mom-World,” Thirsty Thursdays are few and far between.

For me, Thursday nights are kind of like my Fridays. My “official” work-week ends. I tie up paperwork and billing, finish phone calls and prepare for the weekend (and indulge in Grey’s Anatomy of course).  This week was particularly crazy and by Thursday night I felt a huge weight off my shoulders. It was as if my black, white, and gray pictures turned into color – sort of like that magical scene from the Wizard of Oz.

I felt like I noticed my daughters more, listened more carefully to their stories and concerns, and generally seemed more present in the moment.  I have to admit that being present in the moment is a daily goal, but one that I frequently fall short of.  Reflecting on how wonderful fully “being” with them felt, I found myself wishing I could make a way to be more intentional about this daily (again, repeat theme – it is a daily seemingly unreachable goal). But as I thought, I realized that being a parent, specifically being a Mother, is such a challenging job that the honest truth is that if we were always “fully present” nothing would get done! So I decided to allow myself, right then and there in that moment, to give myself a break. I vowed to no longer feel guilty if I was not engaged constantly but at the same time, ironically I decided to try to schedule more unscheduled time! In other words, more “Thursdays” for me.  Today, I’m taking the day as a Thursday. We have no clean socks or towels and I’m not letting myself care, because I have someone who wants to sit on my lap and smother me in kisses. And I know one day too soon, she’ll not want to do that anymore.

Some of us as Mother’s work full time away from the home. Others work full time at home. And some, like me, try to balance both worlds and inevitably feel like we never really get to do anything to the full needed extent. It’s a challenge to do it all and to find a fit that feels best for ourselves and our families. But the fact of the matter is, we all need a “Thursday” or “Thursdays” for that matter.

So to you mothers out there, the ones that I know – those who helped raise me and those who help me raise my kids, those who inspire me, push me, and encourage me in this messy but wonderfully yummy job of motherhood, and to those who I don’t know personally but who I am connected to through this important job we are trusted with – I wish you a Thursday -kind –of- Sunday and a very restful, happy, and fully present Mother’s Day!